Top 10 Valentine’s Tips for Dudes

Yes, it’s American commercial rubbish invented to get you stoned on chocolate, but that doesn’t mean Australians haven’t quietly adopted Valentine’s Day for their own understated purposes. In 2013, there’s no shame in manning up for your lady and showing her some love this Thursday evening.

Still, if you’re a dude, negotiating Valentine’s Day can be a little like passing the California Bar Exam. This is hard. People have panic attacks, vomit, faint and just generally flip out. (I know a guy who once took his girl out on the bay in his friend’s dinghy. He was so intent on dealing wfith his nerves that he got hammered and capsized the boat.)

With that in mind, we at TheVine thought we’d reach out to our fellow men and offer a Top 10 of Valentine’s Day tips. The obvious stuff should be clear by now (no strawberries in the champagne, no declarations of love on your erect penis). The rest, though, can be a little trickier. Here’s a guide.

10. Effort in, not pressure on

A bit of planning is probably essential if you want to make Valentine’s Day a success. But anything that requires scale models and a synchronisation of watches is off limits. Keep it simple, bro.

9. Be adaptable

So planning’s good, but it doesn’t mean you can stop the world from turning. If it’s raining, don’t insist on taking her to the park. Obvs, I know, but I guarantee you’ll still get some losers trying to share cover with three other couples and a squadron of mosquitoes. Keep your options open.

8. Avoid restaurants

This might seem counterintuitive, but restaurants are the worst place to go on Valentine’s Day. As much as that one girl across the table might love you, the staff absolutely hate you. You’re that sucker who goes out for dinner once a year, gorges himself on a set menu and refuses to tip: none of this is necessarily true, but I guarantee it’s what they’re thinking when you step through the door. Besides, you should already be going on plenty of dinner dates, ones where you can pick what you want off the menu and the waiter actually cares.

7. If you’re single, don’t go out

If you hate being single, Valentine’s Day is not the time to hit the pub and drown your sorrows. You’ll simply finish the night propping up the bar, creeping everyone out. And don’t get together with your other single buds and look to make some sort of alpha-male statement. That way strip clubs lie. You’re not an alpha-male, and your shirt’s stuck in your fly.

6. Valentine’s begins at breakfast

This might sound like a pain in the arse, but consider it an investment. You’re setting the mood here, meaning that by the time you catch up with her after work, she doesn’t spend the evening talking about how much she wants to stab her boss. I recommend poached eggs on zucchini bruschetta. Stay classy.

5. Don’t go to the flicks 

The cinema is a lousy place for a date at any time of the year, let alone on Valentine’s Day when there’s absolutely nothing on. What are you going to see? Zero Dark Thirty? Joel Edgerton and a terrorist covered in his own excrement are not romantic. Forget about it.

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