Undies on the outside is so hot right now. But regular K-mart knickers or T-shirt bras will not do. To make a feature of your knickers, you must have the right ones.

Obey My Demand are the kind of thing I'm talking about. Obey My Demand is a label of forceful undergarments made in contrasting mesh, leather and silk chiffon that's made to be seen. 

Part of the haute hotness of the OMD collection is the subdued palette. Yes, it's leather and silk against the skin, but there's none of the gaudiness associated with shop-bought "sexy" lingerie - you know, the kind that men think all women want. Tack is banished, and your imagination steps up to imagine the possibilities of the simple black, gold and oyster palette. 

A commanding leather-panelled bodysuit would work a treat with a pair of wide-legged business pants, skinny belt and serious heels. Your arms are covered, but the mesh reveals just the right level of kink as you go about conquering the world. 

Wear the OMD sculpted leather bra under an open white shirt, or a waspie over a slim-fitting T-shirt dress and under a chiffon layer for a certain level of severe sex. You don't have to be outrageously sexual to pull it off, there's plenty of room for irony in this vibe. 

The OMD pieces immediately lend themselves to being worn in the open, but of course, wearing something so strongly saucy hidden underneath your everyday clothes will give you a confidence that others can only wonder about. 

Has anyone you know ever seemed unnaturally confident and self-assured? I always put it down to the right underwear.Â